Note: Several links below are broken. I am researching each and will be updating them. The information is intact though. Neil
MY SPECIAL PROJECTS
Wrenna Robertson (author of I’ll Show You Mine) and I started this project, a blog and online exhibit of art featuring the vulva. Here we celebrate the vulva, with this exhibition of paintings, drawings, photographs, sculpture, jewelry, and fabric arts. Our goal is not only to promote the artists here, but also to normalize and celebrate the many shapes, sizes, and colors of the vulva. We think vulvas are beautiful and deserve your attention and appreciation.
V is for vulva, not just vagina
For years I’ve been concerned that many, many people still use the word vagina when referring to a woman’s vulva. Since the vagina refers only to a part of a woman’s internal genitalia, this misuse of terminology erases the woman’s external genitalia. I’m doing my part to spread awareness of this “psychic genital mutilation” by linking to Dr. Harriet Lerner’s article on the subject. I encourage you to read it.
My assistant Michelle started a blog on what it’s like to work for me. It contains updates on my latest and ongoing projects as well as tidbits about my daily life. And lots of photos of my cute dog, Bapu.
My City Brights blog at SFGate. I don’t update it anymore, but there are some great blog entries. I particularly recommend a humorous interview with me circa 1999 and books by my bed.
SEXUALITY/GOOD WRITING
Among all the sexually explicit trash in cyberspace, a few sites stand out for their superb presentation of thought-provoking writing about sex, and/or fine erotic writing.
Clean Sheets Magazineis a free, all-volunteer website which posts a fresh selection of fiction, articles, reviews and poetry every week and boasts some of the largest archives of quality erotica on the Web.
While you’re out visiting, check out sex maven Susie Bright’s site to see what that mischievous socio/sexual commentator is up to.
And stop in on Carol Queen too, and her latest San Francisco bay area community project, The Center for Sex & Culture, at www.centerforsexandculture.com
Then there are the writings (essays, reviews, thought pieces and books) of my good friend David Steinberg. David, editor and publisher of Erotic By Nature and editor of The Erotic Impulse and Photo Sex: Fine Art Sexual Photography Come of Age, writes a regular column and e-mail newsletter titled Comes Naturally. More than a hundred of these essays are archived here. David’s fine sexual photography can also be seen at his website.
Check out the work of Jack Morin, author of Anal Pleasure and Health, who writes eloquently and expertly on the subject of anal sexuality. Jack’s less well known book The Erotic Mind is arguably one of the two or three most important books about sex written in the past three decades.
WHERE TO BUY SEX TOYS (Books & Videos Too)
Good Vibrations and my daughter Amika were born in the same year (1977) and both of them are now grownups. GV has three retail stores in San Francisco, one in Berkeley, one in Oakland, and one in Brookline, MA with several more stores around the country planned in the coming years. The stores and GoodVibes.com are great places to learn about and purchase a wide variety of sex toys, other sexual accoutrements and erotic and sexual enhancement books and videos. There’s also a blog, in-store events, how-tos and advice, an online magazine, and of course, the antique vibrator collection.
www.babeland.com
Their tagline says “Sex Toys for a Passionate World.” I like that. Babeland is the closest thing to a sister company that Good Vibrations has. Their original store in Seattle was modeled on Good Vibrations. That one lives on and they operate three other stores in New York City.
Blowfish is a great website, with sales, information and free shipping for a wide variety of sex-related products including books. Be sure to check out Radio Blowfish, a free podcast where they interview sex bloggers and porn actors and discuss new sex toys and vibrators.
SEXUALITY/OTHER LINKS
The Antique Vibrator MuseumPhotographs, descriptions, and historical perspectives on several of my large collection of antique and just-plain-old vibrators appear in the Vibrator Museum on the Good Vibrations web site. Enjoy this box cover from one of my favorite oldies.
Photography of Jan Saudek: Only tangentially related to my interests in sexuality, I’m eager to share with you that I’m the proud owner of 15 original hand-colored photographs by the well-known Czech photographer Jan Saudek. I’m hoping that this will catch the eye of another Saudek fan or two who’d enjoy corresponding with me about Mr. Saudek and his work. Those not familiar with Saudek’s evocative, sometimes amusing, and often erotic photographs would do well to visit his wonderful website http://www.saudek.com/index.php which now includes over 450 of his photographs taken from the early fifties to the present.
This is the home of the wonderful film Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women Over Sixty, directed by Deirdre Fishel. It happens to have the same name as my book, but the two are completely independent projects.
Polyamory from a practical perspective. This is the single clearest, most balanced and comprehensive source for good information on polyamory that I’ve found on the Web.
Home of Loving More, a magazine on polyamory, with a good links page to other poly resources and local organizations throughout the country.
www.intimatearttattoo.com (formerly titattoo.com)
With friend Scott Cooper, I created Titattoos, temporary tattoos designed to be worn on the breast. You can see all the designs and order them here.
The Society for Human Sexuality is a social and educational organization devoted to the appreciation of the myriad consensual forms of human relationships and sexual expression. Its site is a tremendous informational resource.
The Sexuality Education and Information Council of the United States (SIECUS) is a national nonprofit organization which affirms that sexuality is a natural and healthy part of living. Incorporated in 1964, SIECUS develops, collects, and disseminates information, promotes comprehensive education about sexuality, and advocates the right of individuals to make responsible sexual choices.
The Religious Institute is a multifaith organization dedicated to advocating for sexual health, education, and justice in faith communities and society. They provide clergy, congregations, and denominational bodies with technical assistance on addressing sexuality and reproductive health, and assist sexual and reproductive health (SRH) organizations on addressing religious issues and developing outreach to faith communities.
The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) is an international organization dedicated to the advancement of knowledge about sexuality. It is the oldest organization of professionals interested in the study of sexuality in the United States.
OTHER IMPORTANT SITES
The comprehensive website of the Cohousing Association of the United States. Most frequently visited sections on this website are What is Cohousing? and the Communities Directory.
www.swansway.com
Swan’s Market Cohousing, Old Oakland, California, where I’ve lived since Spring 2000.
The best Unitarian-Universalist congregation in the San Francisco Bay Area.
The denominational home page of the Unitarian Universalist Association.
My daughter, Amika, is a midwife and was one of the founders of this Portland, Oregon waterbirth center.
United for a Fair Economy is a national, independent, nonpartisan organization that puts a spotlight on the dangers of growing income, wage, and wealth inequality in the United States and coordinates action to reduce the gap.
Responsible Wealth is a group of business leaders and wealthy individuals speaking out for greater economic fairness and shared prosperity.